Emotional Intelligence: Personal Responsibility Part 2
What is Emotional Intelligence?
The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
Asking [children] for help not only promotes kindness, empathy, and a sense of purpose, it also underscores a sense of responsibility ans investment in the family [classroom] community, and the world.
-Angela C. Santomero, M.A. (Preschool Clues)
Children need to see that they are part of the community, and essential to people they love. Fred Rogers emphasized this point, too.
I often tell my students, "many hands make light work." There is power in working as a team or family to accomplish a task. I have even joked that I'm going to bring them home with me and let them clean my house.
Personal responsibility is about owning our piece, and the root of empathy. What we choose to do affects other people.
Here are some of my favorite books to build accountability and responsibility.
Anything from Julia Cook is worth the money. Always.
In the classroom, we will often create promises to each other. We use the acronym of SOAR in our school, because we are ravens, but you get the idea.
Some examples from other classroom promises. You can use this idea in your home, as well. Children crave boundaries and feel safer when they are established, consistent, and predictable. If you are sharing your children with a former partner/spouse, the more you can be in alignment with expectations, the less chaotic it will be for your child.
In the "teamwork" example, they have added pictures to help children. Using pictures is helpful for young children and those with autism. The children made their own faces to go around their promises, but I would also have them sign their names, too. It builds ownership, and is a wonderful way to reinforce your expectations, as you can refer back to the promise that EVERYONE agreed to.
Don't forget to tell them how proud you are when they make kind choices. It's showing them that they are growing on the inside.
Check out the other posts in this series on Emotional Intelligence.
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