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Attachment: Our First Encounter with Love

attachment attachment theory attunement connection Mar 31, 2021
Have you ever wondered why you are anxious about your friendships or relationships? Do you shy away and avoid emotional connection? Perhaps you have a deep fear of abandonment and rejection? Maybe there's a sense that if you asked for what you needed, it would go unheard. Our deepest fears and insecurities are rooted in our attachment wounds.
 
As children, we internalize our parent's availability."
-Dr. Mariel Buquè
 
What do all children need from their parents?
  1. Attunement
  2. Responsiveness
  3. Engagement
  4. Ability to regulate their arousal
  5. Strong enough to handle negative emotions
  6. Willingness to repair
       (Young 2018)
 
If we do not receive these six things, then we will end up insecure attachment.
 
Insecure attachment styles include Avoidant, Anxious/Ambivalence & Disorganized.
 
Each insecure attachment style has identifiable characteristics and "inner dramas" (inner working models).
 
 
 
 

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